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Rachel Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples.  Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage.
Here she talks about the different types of intimacy in our relationships, and how to nourish it. Enjoy a great read!

When people think about intimacy they mostly think about sex.

But did you know there are many different types of intimacy in a relationship?

It’s not all about physical intimacy.

In this article you will read about the different kinds of intimacy and how you can nourish and cultivate them.

The 6 Types of Intimacy

Being intimate with someone is not only about sex. It is about building a bond, it is about trusting each other. It is about growing together. Before we discuss the things you can do to nourish the different types of intimacy, read below a complete overview of all the kinds of intimacy.

Let’s start with the most obvious one.

Physical intimacy: Love is touching

This is the most well-known kind of intimacy. People hear the word “intimacy” and they immediately think about cuddling, kissing or having sex. Those are all forms of physical intimacy.

A relationship is not only about the physical part but without the physical part a relationship will not last.

Physical intimacy is as important as the other five types of intimacies. Physical intimacy is about touching each other. It is a physical display of your love for each other. You can think about holding hands, caressing, kissing or making love.

We all need to be touched. By being touched we feel loved. We feel accepted.

Emotional intimacy: Sharing is caring

Next is emotional intimacy. This type of intimacy is all about being able to share your feelings and desires. It is about being able to be yourself when near your partner. When the emotional intimacy between you and your partner is strong, then you are able to share your feelings without feeling vulnerable. As soon as you can do that within your relationship you know you have a strong emotional bond with your partner.

Intellectual intimacy: Smart love

But it does not end here, intimacy is not just about touch and emotions. It is about intellect as well.

Intellectual intimacy is about understanding each other and having the same thoughts about different topics. This also means that you have the same opinion about the things that you find important in your marriage. Amongst others it is about having the same values.

You know you have a strong intellectual intimacy with your partner when you are able to discuss with them, without the fear of being hurt.

Recreational intimacy: Discover what you have in common

This is about making time for each other and doing things together that the both of you like.

It is about being active together. You could do things that you know that you will both enjoy, like taking a 30-minute hike or spending some time in nature.

Recreational intimacy can help you discover, or re-discover, the things that you have in common with your partner. As a result you might appreciate your partner even more.

Spiritual intimacy: Love as a higher goal

Every relationship has a spiritual component as well. It is not always about religion, but it can be.

Did you never wonder what the main goal of your life is?

Such questions are in the domain of spiritual intimacy. Just like you have your own questions or motives for doing things, so does your partner have his or her reasons and beliefs.

Building strong spiritual intimacy is easier when you have a shared belief or shared religious practices. Praying together is a good way to improve this kind of intimacy. But also being able to discuss the meaningful questions about life is another way to improve the spiritual intimacy that you have.

Financial intimacy: It’s not always about money

Will problems arise when you and your partner do not have the same vision as far as retirement is concerned?

You bet!

This is where financial intimacy comes into play. In order to grow stronger together you will also need to be aligned as far as money is concerned. Do you have an agreement about future goals and plans? How much money should your children get? Are there any current financial issues that need to be dealt with?

Financial intimacy is only possible when you can be honest and open about the finances of your household.

Improving Intimacy In Your Relationship

In order to improve the different types of intimacy in your relationship follow these tips.

Read a book together

This one probably goes without saying. Reading a book together helps improve your intellectual intimacy. It actually does not matter whether the book is fiction or nonfiction.

Pray together

If you and your partner are both religious then praying together can help improve your spiritual intimacy. You also might want to go to church together. Even if you are not religious but your partner is, you might want to give it a try, just to see things from your partner’s perspective.

Have a deep and meaningful conversation at least each week

How many couples really do have time for each other? How many couples have good and deep conversations every week?

Make some time each week for deep and meaningful conversation. The length of the conversation is not that important. What is important is that you discuss the things that you really, truly want to talk about.

Have a weekly active date

In order to improve your recreational intimacy it is time to start scheduling a weekly active date each week, like taking the family for a one hour hike or going to the beach.


Author Bio:- Rachel Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.